Free BDSM Test: Find Your Role (Dom, Sub & 23 More)

A Dominant enjoys taking control: giving instructions, setting rules and deciding what happens next.

Think telling a partner what to do in bed, rules and titles, praise and playful punishment. Many doms start with a single evening of being in charge. Usually pairs with a Submissive.

A Submissive enjoys giving up control: being told what to do, following rules and pleasing a partner.

Think following instructions, using a title like "Sir" or "Miss", being held still. Many subs start by letting a partner lead one evening. Usually pairs with a Dominant.

A Switch enjoys both sides: sometimes taking control, sometimes giving it up.

Some switch depending on the partner, some depending on the mood or the day. A Switch can pair with almost anyone, including another Switch who likes trading places.

A Brat is a submissive who teases, talks back and breaks playful rules to get a reaction.

The fun is in the push and pull: the cheeky remark, the rule broken on purpose, being "caught". Pairs with a Brat tamer who enjoys the challenge.

A Brat tamer is a dominant who enjoys a partner who pushes back, and enjoys putting them in their place.

Expect quick wit, firm rules and playful punishment when a brat acts up. Pairs with a Brat.

A Master or Mistress enjoys a long-term dynamic where a partner serves them and follows their rules day to day.

This goes beyond a single scene: daily rules, rituals, titles and service. It works best when both write down what the arrangement covers. Pairs with a Slave.

A Slave enjoys serving a partner and following their rules day to day, in a long-term dynamic both have agreed to.

Think daily rules, rituals, service and calling a partner Master or Mistress. Both partners can renegotiate or end it at any time. Pairs with a Master/Mistress.

A Sadist enjoys giving pain to a partner who wants it: spanking, biting, scratching, hair pulling, wax.

The pleasure is in the giving and in a partner's reaction. Start light and build up, and stop on a safeword. Pairs with a Masochist.

A Masochist enjoys receiving pain: being spanked, bitten, scratched, having their hair pulled.

For a masochist the sting is part of the pleasure, often followed by a warm, floaty feeling. Start light with a partner you trust. Pairs with a Sadist.

A Rigger enjoys tying a partner up with rope.

For many riggers the appeal is the craft and the control, as much as the result. Learn a few safe ties first and keep safety shears nearby. Pairs with a Rope bunny.

A Rope bunny enjoys being tied up with rope.

The appeal is the feeling of rope, being held still and letting go. Start with simple, loose ties and say right away if anything goes numb. Pairs with a Rigger.

A Primal (Hunter) enjoys chasing, wrestling and catching a partner in raw, instinctive play.

Expect chasing, pinning, growling and play-fighting. Clear a safe space and agree on a stop signal first. Pairs with a Primal (Prey).

A Primal (Prey) enjoys being chased, struggling and being caught.

The thrill is in running, resisting and finally being caught. Agree on a stop signal that works even mid-struggle. Pairs with a Primal (Hunter).

An Owner enjoys pet play from the caretaking side: a collar, training, rewards and looking after a partner as their pet.

Common elements are a collar, a pet name, simple commands and lots of praise. Pairs with a Pet.

A Pet enjoys pet play: wearing a collar, acting like a puppy, kitten or other animal, and being cared for by an owner.

The appeal is often playfulness and freedom from human worries. Pairs with an Owner.

A Daddy or Mommy is a nurturing, protective dominant in a caregiver-style dynamic between consenting adults.

Think guidance, praise, rules and looking after a partner. Pairs with a Little.

A Little enjoys being looked after, spoiled and guided by a caregiver partner in a dynamic between consenting adults.

The appeal is often feeling carefree and safe. Pairs with a Daddy or Mommy.

An Ageplayer enjoys role-play where adults take on an age different from their own.

This is role-play between consenting adults and nothing else. Agree on the characters and where the scene ends before you start.

A Degrader enjoys verbally humiliating a partner during play: calling them degrading names they have agreed to.

Words that work in play can hurt outside it, so agree on exactly which names are in and which are off limits. Pairs with a Degradee.

A Degradee enjoys being verbally humiliated during play: being called degrading names they have agreed to.

For many, the charge comes from the contrast with how respected they feel outside play. Agree on exactly which words are in and which are off limits. Pairs with a Degrader.

An Exhibitionist enjoys being watched, from a partner's eyes on them to an audience who wants to see.

Some like showing off for a partner, others like posing or performing for people who have chosen to watch. Pairs with a Voyeur.

A Voyeur enjoys watching others be intimate, when the people being watched want an audience.

Watching a partner put on a show is a common start. Watching anyone who has not agreed to it is not voyeurism in BDSM; it is a crime. Pairs with an Exhibitionist.

An Experimentalist is willing to try almost anything once.

Curiosity is the draw: new kinks, new roles, new sensations. A short yes/no/maybe list with a partner keeps it fun and safe.

A Non-monogamist is open to more than one partner, with everyone knowing and agreeing.

Arrangements range from open relationships to polyamory. Clear agreements and honest check-ins matter more than the label.

Vanilla means preferring intimacy without BDSM roles or kink.

A high Vanilla score is a result like any other. Many people mix a mostly vanilla life with the odd kinky moment.