Two private maps · One mutual result
You each answer alone.You only ever see the overlap.
Cuffplay is for two people who already trust each other and want a better way to talk about what they want. Map your preferences privately, then discover only what you both said yes to.
Free to map, pair and reveal · No public profiles
Private first. Mutual by design.
Every one of these is enforced by the software, not a promise in a policy document.
01
Each of you maps privately
Forty ideas, rated on your own: want, maybe, or pass. Your partner cannot see your answers, and nothing is shared at this stage.
02
You mark what is never
Hard limits are a filter, not a preference. Anything you mark is kept out of matching and out of every plan — and your partner is never shown what you marked.
03
You choose what enters matching
Sharing is an explicit decision, item by item, with nothing pre-selected. Answers you keep private stay private, and their absence is not visible.
04
Only the overlap is revealed
You see ideas you both said yes to. Nothing one-sided appears, and there are no scores or counts that could be read backwards.
From overlap to agreements
The reveal is the beginning, not the result. A D/s dynamic runs on agreements, and Cuffplay keeps them the way they were made.
Rules and tasks
One of you writes a rule or a task; it lands with the other, who accepts it, sends back a counter, or declines — no reason required. Nothing is active until the person it applies to has said yes.
Points and outcomes
Completed tasks earn points; a missed one is a missed one. A reward or a consequence is its own proposal, and the person it applies to can still say no. Points convert to nothing.
Hard limits are a veto
Any rule, task, or plan that refers to something either of you set as a hard limit is refused — without saying whose limit it was.
Tonight and Play
A structured scene plan built from your overlap, a daily prompt you both see, and six guided practices. Anything either of you ruled out never appears.
Your map, always yours
Change any answer, any time. Withdraw sharing on anything, and it leaves matching immediately.
Leave alone, any time
Either of you can end the pairing without the other's agreement. Your map stays with you; shared agreements stop the same second.
What it costs
Nothing. Your map, pairing, and the full mutual reveal are free. They are not a trial, and there is no paid tier.
You can also use the kink checklist on your own first, with no account at all — saving it is what creates your map.
Common questions
Can my partner see what I said no to?
No. Only ideas you both marked want or maybe appear. Anything one-sided is invisible, and we return no counts or scores that could be read backwards to infer it.
What if we want different things?
That is the normal case, and the overlap is usually smaller than either person expects. Seeing it plainly is the point — it gives you somewhere concrete to start instead of guessing.
Do I need an account to try anything?
No. The BDSM test is free, anonymous, and needs no sign-up. An account is only needed to build a private map and pair with a partner.
Is this a dating app?
No. There is no discovery, no profiles, no messaging, and no way to find strangers. Cuffplay works for two people who already know each other.