Two private maps · One mutual result
You each answer alone.You only ever see the overlap.
Cuffplay is for two people who already trust each other and want a better way to talk about what they want. Map your preferences privately, then discover only what you both said yes to.
Free to map, pair and reveal · No public profiles
Private first. Mutual by design.
Every one of these is enforced by the software, not a promise in a policy document.
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Each of you maps privately
Forty ideas, rated on your own: want, maybe, or pass. Your partner cannot see your answers, and nothing is shared at this stage.
02
You mark what is never
Hard limits are a filter, not a preference. Anything you mark is kept out of matching and out of every plan — and your partner is never shown what you marked.
03
You choose what enters matching
Sharing is an explicit decision, item by item, with nothing pre-selected. Answers you keep private stay private, and their absence is not visible.
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Only the overlap is revealed
You see ideas you both said yes to. Nothing one-sided appears, and there are no scores or counts that could be read backwards.
From overlap to practice
The reveal is the beginning, not the result. What you both said yes to becomes something you can actually do.
Tonight
A structured plan built from your overlap — prep, warm-up, the scene itself, winding down, and aftercare. Anything either of you ruled out never appears.
Play
A daily prompt you both see, and six guided practices with timed steps. Slow, structured, for two.
Calibration
After a plan, either of you can say it was too gentle or too much. The next one adjusts. Backing off takes one word; escalating takes two.
Your map, always yours
Change any answer, any time. Withdraw sharing on anything, and it leaves matching immediately.
What membership does — and does not — change
Your map, pairing, and the full mutual reveal are free forever. They are not a trial, and they will never be held behind membership.
Membership is $12/month or $79/year per couple and removes the one-per-week limit on plans and guided practices. One membership covers both of you.
See membership →Common questions
Can my partner see what I said no to?
No. Only ideas you both marked want or maybe appear. Anything one-sided is invisible, and we return no counts or scores that could be read backwards to infer it.
What if we want different things?
That is the normal case, and the overlap is usually smaller than either person expects. Seeing it plainly is the point — it gives you somewhere concrete to start instead of guessing.
Do I need an account to try anything?
No. The BDSM test is free, anonymous, and needs no sign-up. An account is only needed to build a private map and pair with a partner.
Is this a dating app?
No. There is no discovery, no profiles, no messaging, and no way to find strangers. Cuffplay works for two people who already know each other.