In Common

A shared space begins with an invitation. One of you creates a private link in the app and the other accepts it after signing in. Nothing is joined until they agree.

Each of you rates ideas privately as Interested, Curious, Not for me or Never. Only ideas you both chose and both decided to share appear in In Common. Your partner never sees the rest.

Nothing from your Map is shared until you decide what to include. “Never” is never shared or compared. Answers you keep to yourself stay with you, and their absence is not visible to your partner.

There are no counts or scores that could reveal a one-sided answer. You see the ideas you share and nothing else. Either of you can pause or end the connection at any time.

A shared interest is a place to start a conversation. It is not consent and not a plan. It does not tell you how either person feels about a specific activity today, or what limits and timing would make it right.

Ask what each choice means to the other person. When you want to go further, the Scene Planner lets you pick from what you both shared, agree a safeword and signals, and record aftercare. Your partner can agree, suggest a change or say “Not now.”

Start on your own. The Kink Test is free and anonymous. A free account keeps your result in your private Map, where it can start a conversation with a partner. The Kink Checklist is free, needs no account, and keeps its answers in your browser.